INSTEAD,...

I learned 5 Survival Patterns 

that Sabotage Love...

To CRITICIZE and stay safe in my HEAD.

To PLEASE to get approval and avoid rejection. 

To try to FIX people, as a way to stay in CONTROL.

To play the VICTIM, to get sympathy and power.

To be a LONE WOLF, pushing away anyone

who gets too close

Growing up, I was never taught...

The 7 SKILLS needed to 

MASTER the ART of

LOVING and being LOVED:

1. To SPEAK with INTEGRITY and TRUTH.

2. To LISTEN with ACCEPTANCE and WISDOM

3. To FIGHT with Respect and Compassion

4. To REPAIR quickly and FORGIVE fully.

5. To LET GO of the past and TRUST in the moment.

6. To REACH out for HELP.

7. To TRANSFORM negative feelings into POSITIVE ones!

...to stay the product of my flawed upbringing, stuck in the Man Box, asleep in the matrix, a slave to the society of distraction, destruction, vanity, and consumption, wearing fine masks but truly wounded and weary to...  

Stay a boy in a man's body,

who can never truly LOVE

But, now
I have a CHOICE...
Or...
 
To RESIST the conditioning... AWAKEN from the spell... FOLLOW the instincts of my heart... EMBARK with courage 
  -- on the greatest adventure I could ever take --
into the realm of INTIMACY
healing the wounds that have bound me, learning the ancient Art of LOVE, creating incredible JOY and PASSION...
To 
become
a MAN 
who is
both....

POWERFUL

and LOVING

What choice will you make?