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Sick of the stupid fights?
Want to step up and be the man who stops the madness?
You've likely already tried...

Talking about it... with your partner.

Made it even worse between you!

Ruminating... trying to figure it out on your own.

Made you feel more guilty and even more confused!

Following experts' advice...

Found it un-natural and hard to

actually do!

Couples Counselling:  because your partner made you. Or you made them.


It was expensive, dredging up pain, results were not as big, and felt like a slow path...


You may have...
done your homework, reading our
free series on mastering intimate conflicts below...



do we keep having stupid fights?

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do we Master Conflicts?

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can we go to learn to Master Conflicts

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Are you ready to become a
Looking for a more POWERFUL & DYNAMIC
(fun and effective)
 way that WORKS?
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A powerful training

in our virtual dojo


Here's what our students learn...


LEARN + Practice these skills to  become a "LOVE WARRIOR" who has masterY over conflict:

Complete these challenges...

How to


tension and conflict instantly -- creating more safety and respect

with you and your partner.

How to


criticism and blame

(as well as physical attacks) which would normally hurt you and trigger your reflex to counter attack!

How to



when you get hooked into a power struggle of trying to change your partner or collapse into giving in too much and becoming resentful. 




so you can quickly assess the most potent pathways for mutual satisfaction and decisively move you and your partner forward together. 

How to



emotionally so that you

don't keep replaying painful patterns. Instead, awaken new and more positive emotions that make

change easier! 

by men who train with us...


"What caught my attention was how my instincts are to control…


As soon as I was able to take my hands off and go with the flow It really felt liberating but also so valuable.


...Being able to talk to my partner in that context is wonderful."   ~ Scott



"Even if we have these deeply ingrained patterns that repeat over and over in our relationships, that's not to say that we can't shift these patterns. We can introduce new patterns.


I'm really excited to physically be able to do that while staying more grounded -- and in my power.


I now have this recognition that there's a

better way, a more skillful way." ~ Hamza




"What I notice now are all the places where I turn away on a regular basis. When I have the Relationship Aikido skills in my body, it feels like I actually have a better shot at working with my wife on these conflicts. 


She’s also commented on how I’m shifting the way I enter conflict and that’s a hopeful thing."       ~ Jerry 


"We've been together 28 years and I'm very conscious about how when we would trigger each other earlier in our relationship. It would take 6 hours or 2 days of "working through it". 


Now we still trigger each other, but we get it done in 45 minutes... a half hour.


It's a very gratifying satisfying because I know that this stuff does work. It takes time for me (a lot of time) but it works!


My relationship has never been better.


This makes me very happy. ~ David



"For me, my default pattern has been to freeze and let the other person have their way, which creates this resentment in me which builds over time and turns to rage.


What I'm learning from Relationship Aikido is that it's okay for me to find my center, later. Even if I start by freezing, one step later, I can align myself, find myself and re-engage... 


...and that's something I haven't done in the past and I want to bring it to my relationships now."    ~ Clive


How does the

training work?


moving at

your own pace...


 to SHIFT CONFLICTs quickly





HOW MUCH does it cost?

The potential rewards are priceless and the costs in making this are too high to account.


We'll be launching the public version for $300 by year end.


But, right now, we are extending a special invite to friends and our original students to become our ONLINE DOJO founding members and beta testors for this ecourse training.


This means in exchange for 67% off of the fee ($97), you agree to:


1. Give us honest feedback to make this training not just effective and "Great!" (as it is now)  but INCREDIBLE... LIFE CHANGING... and UNFORGETTABLE!

2. Help us build a truly POWERFUL and LOVING community which is a private and safe online space which men will want to come back to again and again to refresh their understanding, deepen their skills and support one another. This means you invest in supporting the other men training at your side. 


BEFORE you join you need to know.. 

RELATIONSHIP AIKIDO is NOT for men who are... 


  • Still blaming their partner for the stupid fights between them.

  • Looking for online arguments and mental wank fests. 

  • Are not sure and so join us to see what "happens". 

  • Want to hide and not share any part of themselves.

  • Happy to sit back and consume the content passively. 


We don't want your money or excuses. Wish you well elsewhere...


Only men ready to get humble,
get real, and to train with COURAGE
need apply
NOT ready?

Got More questions?

  • How long does it take?
    Though the steps are clear and proven to work, it depends on each man, given his unique circumstance, established clarity and readiness. On average men take.... 4 - 8 weeks to complete the first journey CLARIFY - Escape from the Labyrinth. 3 - 6 weeks to complete the second journey CHOOSE - Making a Wise Decision. Given the depth and scope, the third journey CREATE, varies more. Some men want our intensive guidance and support for 1-2 months after deciding. Others seek it for 6 months or more. Some men continue on with our ongoing MASTERHEART program ($200/month) to maintain the deep connections with other men and continue growing relationship muscles through our trainings and intensives.
  • What does it cost?
    Given the level of experienced, intensive and multi-leveled support including weekly: 1-1 Sessions with David (60 mins) Emotional Process Sessions (75 mins) Small group Reflection and Support Circles Conflict and Relational Skills Training 24/7 Accountability & Process Tracking And the nature of each stage being unique, here is the cost break down: CLARIFY - 8 sessions (10 hours) is $1,997 (CAD) CHOOSE - 5 sessions (10 hours) is $1,997 (CAD) CREATE - flexible 1-4 mentoring sessions ($200 each) + $250/month for The MASTERHEART experience of weekly group learning, accountability and support. A partial subsidy is sometimes avialable (due to the generosity of private donors). Please inquire if you have concerns.
  • Is it private and confidential?
    Our mentoring process is fully private and confidential. Our online community is within an password protected eco-system. Open and vulnerable sharing in our live groups, occurs within a context of strict confidentiality where what we share is held as sacred.
  • What if it doesn't work for me? (GUARANTEE)??
    No. We take the application process seriously. This only works for men who are ready and willing to put the courageous work in, to do what it takes to break out of past patterns around intimacy and commitment and finally be free to love fully. Not for window shoppers who are looking for deals and an easy escape from the impact of their actions.
  • How do I keep my partner from finding out I'm doing this!?
    You don't. Instead, we highly recommend you TELL your partner that you are doing this program. Yeah, I know that might seem terrifying. You might fear that they'd try to sway you, or leave you first, or that knowing you're doing this will hurt them somehow... or... something else painful. The first few steps in the program are all about HOW to do this in the most POWERFUL ANDLOVING way so that it actually helps you (so you have nothing to hide) and it helps them relax and trust you more.
  • So, what's my partner's role then?"
    Once in the program, you will be checking in with your current partner to... Provide clarity on what you think is going on for you. Checking in with them by asking them to verify your perceptions as well as asking them to share their truth with you. Provide insights and concrete input on relationship questions you need to hold together. Potentially (up to both you) you may ask them to help you to stay accountable and honest doing parts of the program where you will want to lie to yourself. And, by informing them (sending them to the partner pages -- tba) they know what this is and so they can give you the space and blessing to do this critical work.
 Is it finally your time
to train and become a
the man who takes lead
to master and transform 
the stupid fights in his relationship,
breaking through to deeper
 levels of intimacy, rock solid trust, incredible passion and loving respect?
We're in the dojo, training... 
Ready for you!
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